Friday, September 02, 2005

Men just don't Call!

This particular issue had always been nagging me ever since I have been 'reaching out' to other people. I have made some friends but no matter how good those friends are (Nordic and Mr. American for example) they rarely call me on the phone while it was me who called them up 99% of the times.

Nordic would have good excuse since he is a computer person like me and if we wanted to communicate we can easily do it via email. Mr. American on the other hand... I suppose he is already busy enough with his life and family that I would not have gone through his thought much.

But I guess that's what I have to bare with since I just happen to made friend with people who eventually have busier life than I do. However, through out the time that I had been on the net try to look up with cute guys who stop by Bangkok and all those times that I spend watching American TV programmes I have reach one conclusion.

Most Men are Pigs who just don't Call! This happens among gay men as well not just the disease that are among straight men only. Sometimes I just wish that my *friends* would just call me first just to talk not because they want something from me.

For some reason, this pattern also happened me on IMs (Instant Messenger) as well. Since I use Trillian I logged on to MSN, Yahoo, AOL, and ICQ all at once and most of the times I have to initiate the chat, IMing them to say Hi first to start the conversation. Not because I was quick to say Hi, since I tried to wait and see if they would notice that I was on as well. More often than not they were just there and never say hi... In retrospect this might be the same case I already mentioned. They are just too busy with their own things to think about little ole me...

Sometimes I have to agreed with the phase 'People who don't need people are the luckiest people in the world' Their world might be lonely and quiet but they were not bother by that! Better than being lonely and wanted to be reached instead of keep reaching out all the times...

2 comments:

savante said...

I am one of those horrible guys who don't call but I do send messages... does that count? Working in the hospital, I usually turn off my cell so I've gotten out of the habit of calling... instead I rely on instant messages.

Paul

Pete said...

Well you have good reason not to use the phone ;)

Unlike these guys I mentioned... hardly any call and with Mr. American even the instant messages were occasional (Birthdays and probably Valentine's :p)...

Some don't even call. But I learned to get over it now ;)